No More Shackles
Many of her afflictions began as a young child and continued
to mount as life went on. You see at an
extremely early age she was sexually assaulted/raped on a continual basis by someone
she loved and trusted. Her innocence was
stripped away. Her little mind damaged
as she was thrown into trying to figure out these adult acts all on her own. A child, once very outgoing became aloof and suspicious and her personality altered. All of this caused her to have a warped
version of love, trust, and truth. The
family as she knew it would be no more as her invader left without a word and never to be spoken of again. This caused my
mother to naturally blame herself as other family member pushed her away. This gave Satan a foothold; he took the
darkness of her childhood and hurled it down like an infectious disease. Not only did Satan cause confusion for my mother, he also used the horrific acts of another human to manipulate the minds of many others
thus causing my mother “a small child” to take on the guilt of the adults uproar,
gossip, secrecy, etc.. Not only was she
carrying a wrongful burden she was also being haunted with the replaying of the
disturbing memories, horrible spoken words, never ending hurts, endless rejection,
and ongoing perception of disapproval by family members, community, and church. This left her with a distorted version of Godly
freedom. And for this reason my mother
seemed to always be chasing after approval, validation and what she thought to
be love. I personally believe she needed
to hear “I am sorry” and “it was not your fault” from her mother and other
family members so the healing process could begin, but regretfully she never got to
hear those words therefore the stumbling block remained for much of her life.
Momma knew too well what rejection felt like after all she
lived it for much of her life. But on
this day the ultimate fear went much deeper and was like none other. She had a profound sense of agony pressing deep
within her. This brought forth a vast
amount of trepidation that spread throughout her entire body. It was something she could not shake on her
own no matter how hard she tried. As we
talked her fears became more real while the tears flowed down her face. She was in a perceived losing battle, and her
conclusion was God could not accept or love her. She felt as though God had already cast her
out and washed His hands of her. As He was
dooming her to Hell with no hope of her ever seeing His face regardless of her
belief in His Son Jesus Christ who died on the Cross for her sins or how much
she longed to be with Him. She was having
a hard time understanding His mercy (or at least the true meaning), grace, and
forgiveness because of her perception of not getting it from those she needed it
from the most “her parents”. Thus
causing her to base God’s Character on what she had experienced from those
around her. “This is a dangerous yet
understandable place to be when we start to listen to the voices in our head.” All of this was a distorted take on God’s
grace and mercy and the lack of understanding to just how important she was to
her Heavenly Father.
Even though my mother asked Christ to come into her life she still had
a hard time understanding and accepting His unconditional love. Although during the last month of her life I
saw I woman who came alive because she started replacing lies with truth, and
hurts with joy while experiencing the true nature of Jesus for the first time. As she began to understand and receive His unconditional
love she was able to let her guard down and started to see the true character of
her Redeemer. I often wonder how different
her life would have been and even the life of her children if she would have come to understand God’s love sooner.
Often times I think of my mother being planted cement who was in
need of a chisel and hammer so she could break free from her fear, guilt, and
shame in order for her to see the splendor that gracefully adorned her. Even though she lived many days in chains of
darkness I am thankful she was able to have a few days where she was freed from those
chains and where she was able to see her true worth, while experiencing peace,
joy, and God’s unconditional love for the first time.
“She is A Daughter of the King forgiving and Loved”
Psalm 107:10-14 Some sat in darkness, in utter darkness, prisoners
suffering in iron chains, because they rebelled against God’s commands and
despised the plans of the Most High. So he subjected them to bitter labor; they
stumbled, and there was no one to help. Then they cried to the Lord in their
trouble, and he saved them from their distress. He brought them out of
darkness, the utter darkness, and broke away their chains
A beautifully written, raw yet transparent tribute to the unfailing love and grace of the Master who designed your precious Momma just as He wanted her! You were the catalyst who helped her find release from the bondage she was in! Great is her reward now in Heaven and great your reward awaits you in Heaven as well! Thank you for teaching us how to love unconditionally!! I'm so proud of you and I love you,Vick!
ReplyDeleteThank you Lisa, I am glad I was able to be there to just love and care for her in her last days and I hope she was able to finally realize just how much I loved her.
ReplyDeleteLove the way you show the last month with your mom thru this blog post!! love ya
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